‘My Life’ At 15: ‘Mary’s Joint’

"Unnecessary pain (pain is pain) / Tell me who would get the blame (you know it hurts) / If we should go astray / What would we do? What could we say?"

There comes a time every person's life when feeling stops making sense. When numb is all you have, and you can't even label what you're going through. That's what "Mary's Joint" is on the My Life album: the point where things just don't make sense anymore. Where asking for forgiveness seems crazy. Where promises made should be promises kept. Where making it work is the only thing. Mary J. Blige just lets it all out on ole boy, reminding him of what he said, of what she needs. Of what she's willing to do to make it work. It's the closest we ever got to MJB rapping on the album, like she's looking in the mirror and freestyling her feelings. Numb to the pain. Past the point of exhaustion. Major props to Puffy and The Hitmen for coaxing that out of her. For getting her to that thin line between love and hate without letting her cross it. They especially get props for calling it "Mary's Joint" because it totally is. The one where delirium is a necessary pain, even if a label isn't. The one joint where she has her say.

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6 Responses

  1. Ah, the luscious harmonies in the intro and the drum loop that pretty much took its cue from Audio Two's Top Billin' made this track successful.

  2. man this feature could not have come at a better time in my life..blah and this song def tops the list

  3. Yet, another, I used to keep on REPEAT.
    LUV IT!

  4. two days in a row! yes, my two favorites off the entire cd. yes! Mary's Joint does it for me. I can't tell you how many times I had this on repeat in HS, shoot even in my adult life. This is why I needed 3 copies of the My Life CD.

  5. this is my most enduring song on my life. what a masterpiece the cd is. if only mary could capture this again...

  6. I was going THROUGH it when this album came out, and to this day when I put this song on I think of my ex. We were driving down the street after (another) pointess arguement and 'Mary's Joint' was playing. As tears rolled down my face, I mouthed the words along with Mary while he drove. Finally, he turned off the radio because he said it was like she was singing for me. I'll always love Mary because she epitomizes what the struggle is all about in trying to make sense of young love.