The SoulBounce Q&A: Musiq Soulchild Gets Real About Love, Relationships & ‘Life On Earth’


MS: It’s about time, it’s about consideration, it’s about love and getting to know that person. It’s about companionship, it’s about respect. It’s about honoring certain things that you both agreed upon. Folks love getting out of stuff off of a technicality and take negative advantage of loopholes and stuff. If you love the person as much as you say you do, you shouldn’t put them in a bad position.

I think it’s important that we as artists, who have this platform and have this voice, contribute to an alternative way of thinking rather than perpetuating the same corny, wack stuff. It’s not cool, yo. (laughs) Let’s really learn how to get along a little bit better.

SB: I think a lot of it has to do with communication, or lack thereof in a relationship. People don’t know how to talk to each other.

MS: Right, and there are a lot of assumptions being made. For instance, I sometimes talk to people about this concept of a timeline. You’ve got some people, both men and women, and you’re like if they spend this much time with you, spend this much money on you or they had this amount of sex with you that it automatically affords them this position in your life. Even though indirectly there may be some truth to it. However, unless that’s been discussed and agreed upon, you are in a holding pattern.

SB: That's true.

MS: You put yourself in that position by not wanting to have that conversation. Just expecting that person to follow your lead on where you think y'all should be. It’s like, okay, we’ve been together for three months, I’ve been over his crib, I’ve met his momma, we’re together. What? Nah, you don’t know that that’s true.

SB: Exactly. Don’t ever assume.

MS: That person probably introduces all kinds of chicks to his momma. His momma is probably like "Oh, another one, okay, we’ll see how long this lasts." You just don’t know.

SB: [laughs] Right.

MS: So, I think people are using old school concepts in a new day. I don’t think that really works. I think that how we interact with one another, how we engage with each other should consistently change with the times because you’ve got to factor in the mindset of the next generation. For example, you have a lot of kids who grew up in single parent homes, and they may have a very different take on relationships. Like, I don’t need to be with somebody for the rest of my life as long as I find someone that I really care for and we have kids and then we fall out, the kids are going to be great. I’m a living example of that. That’s not saying a two-parent home is not ideal, it’s just someone else’s perspective based on their experience.

I’m just saying be willing to have the conversation. Whatever that conversation is with the person that you claim to want to get to know and spend the rest of your life with. Don’t impose your stuff on them because that’s just what you want.

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